I have to say, sometimes asking for help does more harm than good. No one can give me a straight answer as to what plans their going to make with me. It is quite simple, if you don't want to do something with me..tell me. Do not string me along saying you are still thinking about it or haven't asked other people yet. I do not deserve being thread along.
If I just got straight answers, it would be easier to figure out what the hell I was doing. This is where needing help and actually asking for help are annoying as hell. If I don't ask for help, people offer their assistance with blank promises. It is when I do openly say “Yes, I need the help. Yes, I would like your help.” And then suddenly those offers they gave before are not a memory to them and they politely say they need to think about it first. It is frustratingly rude, and yet understandable.
I understand there are other things people have to consider before making me a part of their plans. But waiting and waiting to give me an answer with no promise of an answer at a certain time is just inconsiderate to my own things I need done. It is a two way respect. I am willing to wait and give them time, as long as they consider my time too. And if the person just doesn't want to tell me they simply don't want me around, then they better just tell me. I would rather feel that sting of rejection right away and try again with some one else than have to waste time at the hope I might get the plans made with the person who doesn't even want me around.
And this is really where it all comes down to consideration. Respect is so important, and if me or the other person I am trying to work with is too self-conflicted to even notice the others time, then there is something wrong there.
